Friday, September 12, 2014

Flirt With Your Spouse! Here are Some Creative Ways

I love flirting with my wife. It communicates sexual interest to her in a playful way. Marriage expert Mark Merrill agrees and said married people should flirt with each other a lot and should once in a while flirt in front of the kids to reinforce a sense of love and stability in the home. He suggest a few creative and fun tips on how to flirt with your spouse:

  • Leave a note for her (maybe on her pillow or the bathroom mirror) before you go on a trip.  “I can’t wait to get back to see you!” may be something you’d like to say  Or, let her know you appreciate something specific about her, like “Thanks for taking care of so many details when I’m gone…you do a great job!”
  • Leave a note on her car rear view mirror saying, “I’m jealous of this mirror because it’s looking at you.”
  • Serve him practically in a surprising way. If you don’t normally cook, make him his favorite meal and have a candlelight dinner…just the two of you.  For some spouses, it’s the simple acts of service that lets them know you love them.
  • Text him when you get up and when you go to bed to let him know he’s the first person on your mind and he’s your last thought of the day. I texted my wife, Susan, saying “You are awesome!  I love you!” before we went to sleep even though she was right next to me in bed. I loved how it made her feel, and it surprised me just how much it mattered to her.
  • Come up with something corny, but fun, to tell her or to email her, like “You must be overdue from the library because you’ve got FINE written all over you!”  Or, “Can I have a fry to go with that shake?” (Search the internet sometime for more lame or goofy ideas!)
  • Turn on your favorite song on your smart phone and dance in the kitchen with him when he least expects it.
  • Get dressed up, go outside, knock on the door, and ask her out for a date…the kids will really get a kick out of this one.
  • Post a sincere, unexpected comment of praise for him on Facebook or Twitter.  This has to be done in a humble way and should have substance to it.  Don’t showboat, but do let the world know why he means so much to you.
Read more on Mark Merrill's blog.

Here are more tips courtesy of etiquette expert Diane Gottsman.
  • Show interest. When your spouse is talking to you, put the paper down, step away from the computer, let the phone go to voicemail. Make eye contact. 
  • Touch your spouse. Very simple, quick physical contact can make a big impact.  
  • Tell a joke. Humor can be magical, reducing the tension of the day, improving the mood and atmosphere. Find something funny to share with your spouse. 
  • Wear something special. 
  • Snuggle. Rather than sit at opposite ends of the couch to watch a movie, scoot in and keep each other warm. 
  • Talk. Make conversation rather than reading the paper or watching television. 
  • Compliment one other. We all love to hear good things about ourselves, especially from those most important to us. Tell her what do you admire about your spouse. 
  • Put that technology to good use. Text a sweet sentiment or profession of love. Use an e-mail to say hello in the middle of the day.
  • Hold hands. The next time you’re walking somewhere together—even if it’s just through the grocery store parking lot—grab your honey’s hand.
  • Kiss each other hello and goodbye every single time. This is a quick but meaningful gesture.

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