Thursday, August 8, 2013

My Advice to Other Dads: Save Yourself from Porn Addiction

porn-has-me-trappedBy the end of the 2013, porn will be blocked automatically through your internet service provider. That’s in the United Kingdom. But if you live in the United States or in other part of the world, the battle rages on to keep yourself and your home porn-free.

One time, I was browsing the Internet and I saw this post from a man seeking help. He was addicted, but not with alcohol or drugs. This man was addicted to pornography. He was asking for help because his family is now affected by his addiction. This addiction has been a common problem with most men, and even women too. But it’s not one of the topics that are often discussed because many believe that it’s not that big of a deal or it doesn’t affect them or their families. As a former porn addict, this statement is NOT true!

Porn addiction will not only affect your family but it will destroy you. Sure, everyone has tried looking at porn but just how do you know if you are addicted? One word will let you know – temptation. We know it’s not right but once you are faced with temptation, just like with any other addiction, your will to restrict yourself is tested. What’s wrong with seeing a few clips of porn? It will surely spice up our married life. This is one of the reasoning that you might use to justify this action and before you know it, you are addicted to porn. Does it help your married life or spice things up with your partner? No! Marriage is sacred, the Lord gave us partners to love as we are one with each other and making love itself should be sacred as well. It’s an act that sanctifies the union between man and wife. With porn, it gives marriage and making love a different meaning. When one is addicted to porn, lust fills the body instead of love. It slowly consumes you and before you know it, you are just being driven by your bodily desires.

I remember this verse “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. – Matthew 5:28”. Once your body has been filled with this addiction, one will surely be vulnerable to adultery. Being consumed with lust, thoughts about adultery and urges to do what is not right will eventually lead to the destruction of yourself and your family. You’ll begin to have arguments with your partner, your time would be consumed with these thoughts and lose precious time that you should be spending with your kids. Worst, if one will commit adultery because of these influences, it will lead to a broken family and I know no one wants this to happen. If you are reading this and you know in your heart that you want to stop then you’re in the right path. Like any other addiction, one must accept the wrong and then be open for help. Don’t be ashamed about this, many Christian dads are facing similar problems. Seek out people who you can really talk to, a group in your church perhaps or your local pastor. Don’t get easily discourage with the process of change because all things take time.

As a father, whenever I come across unclean thoughts, I pray. I read the bible and I never fail to look at my children and of course my wife. Then I realize how blessed I am. God gave me these gifts to protect and instead of wasting my time with other things, I would rather take a look at a photo album and teach my kids the word of God. Just remember that as long as we don’t lose focus of what we value, not even the strongest temptation can break us apart. I’ll be leaving you guys with this bible verse – “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. - 1 Corinthians 10:13”.

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